How to Date Russian Women Read online

  Copyright © 2013

  By Frank Evans, ADV Enterprises LLC

  www.HowToDateRussians.com

  All Rights Reserved

  The author requests that no part of this book (cover or content) be used for your own work. This book and its content cannot be sold, published, or distributed in any way without the express written permission of the author.

  Dedication

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  To men who think outside the box.

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  Table of Contents

  Part 1

  Why You Need This Book

  What This Book IS and IS NOT

  Why We Love Russian Women

  Physical Beauty - Character - Intellect - Spirituality

  About the Author

  Myths Debunked

  Mail order bride - Matchmaking services - Only after a green card - Out of your league - Russians are too serious - Russians are desperate - “Making Sex”

  Part 2

  The Art of Dating Russians

  Step 1: Preparation

  Dress and Demeanor - Your Vehicle - Etiquette - Brain - Things to Know - Resources

  Step 2: Opportunity

  Russian women are everywhere - Where they work - Where they live - Where they hang out - How to make your opportunity - One leads to more

  Meeting Local Russians Online

  Russian bride dating services - Effective Online Dating - Best sites for meeting Russian women - How to use social media - The online meeting process - Your profile

  Step 3: Dating

  Approach - Small talk - Asking her out - Pre-First Date - First date - Second date - After the date

  The Immigration Process and Dating

  Green card marriages - Illegal or expiring visa - Welcome to the underground

  Step 4: Long Term

  Lust vs. Love - Support her dreams - Visiting her home

  The Perils of Dating Russian Women

  How to spot a “Green Card Scammer” - Damsel in Distress

  Part 1

  Why You Need This Book

  Meeting and dating Russian women is an enigma to most Western men – perhaps even intimidating. I’ll provide you with experience based guidance and insight.

  Despite what you may think, Russian women live everywhere, including your hometown! I’ll show you where and how to meet them.

  I’ll show you how to become welcomed and integrated into the “Russian Underground” – where you live.

  I won’t give you gimmicky pick up lines or deceptive tricks to use. I’ll help you understand how to present yourself in a way that sets you apart from a “typical American” and attracts Russian women.

  Russian women are very comfortable meeting people online. However, they do it differently. I’ll show you how easy internet dating can be.

  I’ll show you how to spot and avoid a woman that just wants you for a green card.

  I’ll teach you how to get the date despite a language barrier.

  Life is too short – Your fantasy can be reality!

  What This Book Is

  This book is about dating Russian speaking women, not just women from Russia.

  It makes for a cleaner title and wording to simply say “Russian Women.” However, every time I write that I mean “Russian Speaking Women.” You could also substitute, “women from former Soviet Block nations.”

  It is well known that language and culture are strongly linked. Language also has a major influence on how people actually think.

  I have met Russian speaking women from vastly varying countries such as Russia, Armenia, Uzbekistan, Moldova, Ukraine, Lithuania, Romania, etc. They all had unique personalities flavored by the culture of their upbringing. However, the qualities of character, femininity, sexiness, intellect, etc were common to all of them.

  This book is about meeting Russian women that already live near you and dating them normally.

  There is a massive void in the common perception and available information on dating Russian women. Talking to people and searching the internet will lead you to believe that dating Russians is only possible through some kind of “Russian Bride” matchmaking service or international travel.

  This couldn’t be further from the truth!

  I am here to show you that there is already an ABUNDANCE of amazing Russian immigrants living in the U.S. I have learned the ins and outs of where and how to meet them. Using this knowledge, you too can meet feminine, beautiful, interesting, Russian accented women in your local area.

  This is the book that I wish I had when I started trying to date Russian women.

  If you grew up in a Western culture, dating Russians will go against most of what you thought you knew about dating. Dating is a much more natural and genuine process in Russian speaking cultures. Men are appreciated for being men and women are likewise for being women. You are expected to earn the other through your character and virtue – not by playing games. To successfully date Russians, you will need to deprogram yourself from the dysfunctional dating ideas and rules that plague America and Western societies.

  I learned the differences over the course of many years of dating, relationships, hard knocks, and missed opportunities. I now have a profound admiration for both Russian women and their approach to dating and relationships. I will share with you what I’ve learned so that you will be comfortable and successful in dating Russians. I hope that you experience the same satisfaction and enjoyment in life that I have found.

  It is possible to have a passionate and natural relationship that requires no compromises!

  What This Book Is Not

  This is not a book on how to be a “pick-up artist.” It does not teach shortcuts, tricks, deception, etc.

  First of all, I am no pick-up artist. My “game” in American culture is probably average. I also highly respect Russian women and have no interest in deceiving them.

  Secondly, if I had a dollar for every time I’ve seen a Russian woman shoot down a smooth talking “pick-up artist” guy, I’d be rich. These women just don’t fall for it like their less sophisticated American counterparts.

  Why We Love Russian Women

  “Every man carries within him the eternal image of woman…This image is fundamentally unconscious, a hereditary factor of primordial origin…”

  - Carl Jung

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  Russian women are an exotic and mysterious fantasy for many Western men. They are renowned for both their epic beauty and qualities of character, faithfulness, and intellect.

  A chance encounter with a Russian beauty evokes a sense of possibility – the possibility that an ideal woman does exist – one that requires no compromises.

  If you are reading this, then you too feel the drive to pursue this possibility and date Russian women. My goal is to show you the way.

  It is important to note that almost all Russian speaking women exhibit the same enchanting femininity and disposition. This is attributable to the shared culture that is united by the Russian language.

  Here is a cursory examination of why we love these women, along with my humble attempts to understand how they came to posses these qualities.

  Physical Beauty

  Russian women are famous worldwide for their beauty. Their beauty is, in fact, a source of immense national pride in Russia and other culturally similar countries. This cultural pride in beauty elicits a natural inclination in Russian women to take care of themselves and embrace their femininity.

  Russian women typically eat healthy and regularly exercise. To them, it is not a chore or a burden but a way of life. Their pride in beauty is also evident in how they dress. They enjoy clothing that compliments and showcases their female form. They almost universally love high
heels and are masterful in the gracefulness in which they walk in them. (An extinct art in the Western world)

  Another facet to Russian beauty is variety. Russian speaking women come from an exotic spectrum of cultures and ethnic backgrounds. There are over 100 official nationalities living in Russia alone. You have blondes, brunettes, redheads, fair skin, tan skin, European, Slavic, Central Asian, and every exotic mix in between – just to name a few. No matter what physical attributes you prefer in a woman, there is a Russian to titillate your senses.

  Character

  The history of Russia and the former Soviet Republics is an almost uninterrupted story of hardship and suffering. Just in the last 100 years, they have endured WWI, the Russian Revolution, Russian Civil War, WWII, and the collapse of the Soviet Union. These events inflicted massive death tolls, damage to infrastructure, and debilitating economic depressions.

  Women often bore the brunt of the suffering and hardship. I believe this is the kiln that forged the character of Russian women. For countless generations, women have needed qualities of emotional strength, bearing, loyalty, patience, faith, and selflessness.

  Even at the present time, most Russian speaking countries have large populations living in impoverished communities, with little to no opportunity, and rife with organized crime and corruption. Many women that immigrate to the west have personally endured character building hardships while growing up in their home country.

  These sorts of formative experiences are not easily forgotten, even after living in a Western country for years or decades. These women cherish the truly important things in life, and tend not to waste energy on trivial and petty things.

  Intellect

  For all of the Soviet Union’s faults, they did place a tremendous importance on education. They also placed priority on female higher education – well before many Western countries did.

  Most Russian women that I’ve encountered have university or college degrees, in serious subject matters. Their impressive education is usually combined with an even more impressive mental sharpness and penchant for deep and logical critical thinking. (Yes, women thinking logically)

  I have enjoyed countless conversations that lasted hours, but felt like minutes. These conversations have been thrilling from an intellectual standpoint, immensely enjoyable, and have broadened my mind.

  Spirituality

  The Soviet Union covered a vast geographical area and encompassed hundreds of different cultures. You can encounter Russian speaking women ranging from Christians, to Jews, to Muslims, to atheists, agnostics, and others. Again, there is a Russian speaking woman for everyone – no matter what your beliefs.

  Irrespective of denomination, there is an aspect to their spirituality that is wonderfully unique. Like the other positive aspects of Russian women, their spirituality was forged through the endurance of tumultuous times.

  Religion was outlawed during the reign of the Soviet Union. (To be more accurate, the cult of collectivism or communism was mandated as a replacement for all other faiths.) During this time, the ritualism and tradition common to most religions was stamped out. Under these circumstances, spirituality persisted and grew in people’s hearts and minds rather than from habit and obligation. As a result, their spirituality tends to be more thoughtful and personal than those from societies filled with more obligatory religious practices and rituals.

  About the Author

  “I did it my way”

  -Frank Sinatra

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  Just kidding – but I do feel this way with a beautiful Russian on my arm!

  My name is Frank and I am a 32 year old engineer. I’m not rich, I’m not super handsome, and I come from a normal background. I grew up in a medium size town in a middle class family.

  I first encountered Russian women when I was 16. They were in a travelling choir that visited my high school for a concert. I remember being in awe that all 30 of them were more beautiful than the hottest girl in my school. I had a chance to spend some time with them, and was in shock at how friendly and warm they were. In my world, beautiful women were conceited and hard to approach – this was a contradiction. It planted a seed in my mind that I would remember later in life.

  In my early adulthood, I was a “good boy.” I followed all of society’s rules – did what I was supposed to do, went to college, worked hard, got a 9-5, a long commute, a house payment, the whole miserable 9 yards.

  This lifestyle ultimately left me unfulfilled and dissatisfied. I was very bitter that I did “all the right things” and my reward was a life of compromises and accepting “the way it is.”

  I eventually had enough and decided to take action.

  I made a series of drastic course corrections in my life with the central focus of what makes sense to me – what do I want. I fanatically ignored what I was supposed to do.

  A major point of dissatisfaction I had was the scarcity of high quality women. I wanted the complete package. I did not enjoy the dysfunctional dating scene and resented being subjected to women’s “games.” I saw my friends making drastic compromises such as settling for unfeminine women that were nice, or attractive women with corrupt characters or other issues.

  During my period of introspection and asking “What do I want?” I remembered how beautiful and charming the women in the Russian choir were.

  On a whim, I decided – enough American women – been there, tried that – I’m going to ask out the first woman with a Russian accent I meet!

  This was the fork in the road, the “path less travelled that has made all the difference.”

  I almost never encountered Russian women, so my plan was rather optimistic. As luck would have it, I eventually did, and over the years I dated several Russian women. After each relationship, it got easier and easier to find and meet other Russian women. I actually became more comfortable and successful approaching Russian women than I was with Americans.

  My job required a substantial amount of travel and several relocations. At first, I feared that this would be a hindrance to my social life. Instead, it gave me the unique experience of dating Russian women all around America. I was pleasantly surprised (shocked actually) that I encountered Russian women, in relative abundance, everywhere I went.

  It became a running joke with my friends as to how I was meeting all these stunning Russian women. They had all kinds of theories like I was a KGB operative or I had a high class escort addiction. (Keep in mind, most of my friends had never met a Russian, yet I kept finding them in the same town where we all lived.)

  All joking aside, many men began to privately ask me what my secret was. This was the beginning of how this book came to be. Initially, I had a hard time answering their questions. I didn’t have a “secret” or set of tips. I had simply developed good instincts and habits through experience and trial and error.

  My life has been indescribably enhanced by the experience of dating Russian speaking women. I have been inspired by their life stories, their character, their grace, and their zeal for life. I’ve experienced a level of passion and excitement that I never glimpsed while with American women.

  It’s been said, “If you want to get better, you have to get around better.” This has happened to me through my time with Russian women.

  Myths Debunked

  “Those who abandon their dreams will discourage yours.”

  - Unknown

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  The topic of dating Russian women evokes a negative reflex from many people. Mention you are dating an Australian and you are likely to hear “cool” or “interesting.” Mention you are seeing a Russian and people will warn you to “Be careful.”

  Why is that? At first, I just didn’t get it. I admire Russian women, and couldn’t understand others having such a negative, knee-jerk reaction.

  I believe that these negative reactions stem from two sources in men and one source in women.

  American men have become so unfamiliar with feminine women that many are actually unco
mfortable around them. These men fear that women wield their femininity as a weapon to get something or use them. Perhaps this is the most likely context to encounter femininity within American culture…

  Other men are attracted to Russian women, but have never tried to date one due to fear, insecurity, or lack of opportunity. Unfortunately, human nature dictates that many of these men will discourage you if you dare to pursue what they themselves failed to.

  The worst vitriol I’ve seen towards Russian women has come from American women. Yes, they are often jealous or feel threatened, but it is more than that.

  The American feminist movement has led many women to believe that femininity, warmth, cheerfulness, and a love of men are somehow indicative of a lack of sophistication. Russian women shatter this lie by possessing each of these qualities and, all the while, exemplifying sophistication and class. Unfortunately, some women react with vitriol to these Russian women because they contradict their feminist delusions.

  In addition to negative feelings on behalf of some, there are quite a few myths that get perpetuated about Russian women. Allow me to address each myth individually and erase any lingering hesitations.

  MYTH #1: The Russian Mail Order Bride

  Like most people, I had heard of the term “Mail Order Bride,” and also associated it with Russian women in particular.

  At the risk of stating the obvious - No, there is no way of “ordering a bride” and having a woman arrive at your door in a wedding gown.

  The concept stems from historical instances where mass migrations, for things like gold rushes, resulted in lonely men being geographically isolated from populations of women. They would sometimes put ads in papers back home looking for a wife. These were more like “long distance classified ads,” but somewhere along the line, the term “mail order bride” stuck.